Social Media is Lying to You

“The influence of social media is unbelievable. It’s sad to see – it’s a fake life that some people live.” — Virgil van Dijk.

Most people admit to knowing that social media isn’t a real depiction of people’s lives. Yet, time and again, we run into scenarios of people comparing themselves to influencers or randos on <insert social platform here>. It’s like comparing yourself to a fictional character, which isn’t useful.

You doomscroll past all of these super attractive people doing super amazing things in incredible places. Most of it isn’t a true depiction of their lives. Only about 18 percent of men and 19 percent of women reported that their social media displays a completely accurate reflection of themselves¹. With many admitting they are not nearly as active as their accounts present. Comparing yourself with these depictions can lower body image confidence². Worse, it also lowers overall self esteem and increases negative emotions.

This isn’t a cry or push to be a luddite. Like anything, when used correctly social media can allow you to connect with friends and family. It’s a call to be aware of its effect on you. Social media intentionally wants to make you angry or have fomo⁴. AI slop has made it even worse. Be intentional in your use. Track your usage and set boundaries for yourself. Remind yourself of one big thing: most of it isn’t real.

Action: Be aware of your social media usage and its affect on you.

Further Reading:

1. Three quarters of us admit to lying on social media
2. Social Media Use and Its Impact on Body Image: The Effects of Body Comparison Tendency, Motivation for Social Media Use, and Social Media Platform on Body Esteem in Young Women
3. Who compares and despairs? The effect of social comparison orientation on social media use and its outcomes
4. Does Social Media Leave You Feeling Angry? That Might Be Intentional